What To Do About Wedding Gifts

Most couples are registered somewhere, some couples request money, and other couples say that your presence at the wedding is a present.  I’ve looked at registries and thought: 1) Wow, all the good stuff is taken! 2) I know the couple WAY too well to be giving them a fork.  3) I can’t believe they registered for gifts, after saying how much they hated registries.  But what alternatives are there?

If you are a bride and groom, you have a few options. 

  • You can do an alternative registry. One specific type of alternative registry is Wishpot which allows you to create a registry of anything you might want! You can also work with a bank or other business to have people make contributions to your downpayment on a house or a sofa. 
  • Register with a charity, so that your guests can give monetary gifts to a cause of your choice!
  • Ask people to contribute to a honeymoon fund.  If you do that, then set up a way so that people can easily contribute  and be assured that you will use the money for the trip and not for a trip to the grocery store.
  • Ask for money.  You might decide to ask for money because you have everything you need now or you aren’t sure what might be needed or you’re traveling to or from the wedding.  If you decide to ask for money, there are tactful ways to do so.
  • Ask for nothing and make it clear to guests that you’re serious about it.  You might have everything you need now and you don’t want to ask your guests to give you money for a future purchase.  If that’s the case and people insist on giving something (because they probably feel awkward giving nothing), then maybe look above & register with a charity.

If you are a guest, then you might want some ideas that don’t involve cash or a registry!

Giving wedding gifts does not have to be awkward, so long as you remember that you’re all friends or family.  No one wants anyone else to feel bad about asking for or giving a gift. After all, it’s a wedding celebration!


7 Responses

  1. Thank you for mentioning the benefits of a honeymoon registry and describing the attributes behind this increasingly mainstream registry option for engaged couples.

    It is great to see how popular the honeymoon registry is becoming. When Traveler’s Joy first started accepting Members over four years ago, we realized there was a large number of engaged couples that were not satisfied with the diversity of the traditional wedding registry market. Since then, the honeymoon registry has become a mainstream option for brides and grooms and the industry has experienced significant growth.

    We are proud to have helped thousands of couples travel to destinations they may never have considered – a great feeling for everyone at Traveler’s Joy.

    I encourage you to contact us with any questions about our service. Most importantly, enjoy your honeymoon!

    Best Regards,

    Brandon Warner
    President & Co-founder
    Traveler’s Joy Honeymoon Registry
    Traveler’s Joy, Inc.

  2. […] I have previously provided some advice for alternatives to the gift registry, I realize that registering for gifts has become a part of standard wedding planning.  After all, […]

  3. The Out of Control Wedding Gifts!
    Seize control of you style…

    I work with so many brides that are combining households and don’t want to add to the “things” or just don’t want to bother with the effort of thinking through how to make sense out of two styles becoming one with all of the other important things to do for the wedding.

    When it comes down to it, the wedding is a celebration that extends beyond the happy couple. Many times it involves hundreds of people whose lives have touched their’s and some of these guests want to be remembered by a stunning “object” that will live on and perhaps even increase in value beyond the honeymoon. You should register for the sake a few of these conventional gift givers to express themselves.

    The couple “with it all” has a couple of choices. #1 Go for the alternative to a gift registry and live with the hodge podge of styles the conventional gift givers are going to get you anyway because you didn’t register. And, spend the time, money and energy returning the gifts. #2 Go to a professional who can combine your styles and offer transitional style gifts in glassware and entertaining accessories that help pull together your styles into a new YOU TOGETHER STYLE. Direct the traditional gift buyers to buy the few things you want and let others buy the alternative honeymoon package or furniture, etc. #3 ELOPE!

    I find that pulling styles together makes an interesting registry that is focused on entertainment pieces. They make the perfect gifts that are the choice favorites on registries…Large centerpiece bowls, interesting serving forks or sets, accent linens, candle holders and the like. If you don’t want them, save the wrapping and give it as a wedding gift…But, at least it will be something you are not ashamed to give.

    Whatever you decide, enjoy the ride! This process is the fun part.

    Happy Wedding,

    Barbara Strom
    Registry Design Specialist
    Owner/La Bella Vita

  4. […] No problem! You are NOT obliged to give the couple something from the registry. In fact, we have some suggestions for alternatives to registry gifts. How much do you have to spend? Whatever your budget allows + how much you like the […]

  5. […] to send, and what to do if you can’t attend), check out our blog on gift giving advice or what to do about wedding gifts. We also have blogs on best man gifts, gift ideas for the maid of honor, how to ask for gift cards […]

  6. […] what to do about wedding gifts (generally – for both you & the guests) […]

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