Walking Down the Aisle

photo from private The Wedding Lens album (used with permission)

photo from private The Wedding Lens album (used with permission)

Two of my amazing, independent-thinking friends got married last year and decided that they were going to banish the traditions of a wedding ceremony. It was amazing! The bride wore a green dress that she loved, there was no wedding party, and … (ready?) …

… the bride and groom walked down the aisle together. That was maybe my favorite part. They had been together for about 10 years and they felt like they were getting married together, growing together, and sharing a life together. It was so sweet.  But but but…. Yes, I know. The bride asked her father to officiate the ceremony so that he wouldn’t feel left out. And see? Everyone wins… (but who’s counting?)

I went to another wedding recently where the mothers walked the brides down the aisle, while the fathers officiated. It was really amazing to see all the parents involved in their daughters’ big day!

Then, I read another story about a woman who was basically raised by a man who is not her biological father and who she would prefer to walk down the aisle. In that case, Offbeat Bride suggested that she break the news to her father by highlighting the positives of the Other Dad, rather than the negatives of Biological Dad.

Another friend of mine didn’t grow up with her father and wasn’t particularly close with her step father, so she walked herself down the aisle! Stunning to see her walking down the church aisle by herself. She looked incredible!

And then another friend had both her parents walk her down the aisle!

I also just read about a new tradition where the bride and groom meet halfway on the aisle and then come to the altar together.

And then, all this said, some people just like tradition. The bride always dreamed of her father walking her down the aisle. It’s sweet, right?

So, to recap who can walk down the aisle:

  1. bride by herself
  2. bride and groom together
  3. bride with mama
  4. bride with papa
  5. bride with mama & papa
  6. bride with another prominent figure in her life

So – what will you do?

~ Natasha

2 Responses

  1. We are having a destination wedding, where all of our parents will be there and my grandparents.

    My paternal Grandfather is my hero and the brightest star in my sky- he will be walking me down the aisle where my Dad will stand to give me away. I love my Dad but he hasn’t always been there for me. This way I don’t have to count on him maybe being there on this big day- where I know my Grandpa will be there no matter what. Dad was happy and ok with this- we have a common understanding.

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