How to Change Your Name!

A friend of mine got married, um, well over a year ago and she’s just now trying to figure out how to go about changing her name. She has chosen to add on her husband’s last name to her name, but with no hyphen. I have a few friends who have chosen to hyphenate and others who opted for taking their husband’s last name. I also have a few friends who decided to combine their names and both hyphenate. Cool idea, huh?

photo from The Wedding Lens

Regardless of what you decide, here’s how to go about changing your name:

  1. Get a copy of your marriage license in the mail (or pick it up, depending on where you are)
  2. Go to the Social Security Administration in your vicinity with your old ID, your marriage license. They will issue you a new Social Security Card.
  3. Go to the DMV with the new Social Security card, the marriage license, and your old ID. They will issue you a new ID.
  4. Now that you have your new IDs, make sure you change your name on your:
    • passport
    • bank account
    • credit cards
    • 401(k)
    • phone, utilities
    • airline accounts
    • anything else that has your name!

It’s a lot of work initially, but then you dont have to think about it again. And if you’re getting divorced, the process is the same, you just need your divorce certificate instead.

Good luck!

~ Natasha

Writing to Say Thanks!

The wedding is over, the guests are gone, the presents are opened… now what?  Say thanks! It might seem obvious to most people, but I am still awaiting a “thanks” from the very first friend wedding I attended (about 6 years ago). I don’t think it’s coming. And while I know the couple has been busy, you should never be too busy to thank people for their generosity and/or for attending your celebration.


As John recently wrote, thank you cards are the perfect way to introduce to your guests. This means that not only do your guests feel thanked, but you might get some photos out of it too!

The Wedding Paper Divas suggest sending a thank you note that includes a photo from your wedding day.  In fact, the Divas offer a wide range of Thank You cards – all of which are designed, sent to you, & approved by you via email.

The Wedding Bee suggests doing a clever photo montage through something like Shutterfly so that your guests can remember various scenes from your wedding.

Are you creative? Elizabeth Anne Designs gives instructions for do-it-yourself doily thank you cards. It’s creative but might take a little more time to complete.

That said, any kind of thank you card will do! If you’re on a budget, pick up a package of “thank you” cards from any local store.

But please, don’t wait a year (or more!) to thank your guests.

~ Natasha