Dividing the Tasks: Who Does What for the Wedding Planning

During the wedding planning, my friend’s coworker said to her, “your fiance is helping with the planning?!” He was aghast. He figured that the woman took care of everything. Ohhhh my.

Team Work in Action!

Team Work in Action!

What stuns me even more is that most of the articles and blogs I can find seem to say the same thing — or a variation of that, along the lines of “How to FORCE the groom to help!”  or “Demand your groom helps!” How charming….

I’m going to run on the assumption that people were taught to share and help and be kind to one another.  With that in mind, I encourage dividing tasks.  Everyone divides tasks differently, of course, but it is important for both people to get involved. Partly because both should have a say AND partly because putting the whole burden on one person could be overwhelming.  I think it’s healthier for the couple to work together on the wedding.  It lets you work together and support each other during the whole planning process.

My friend gave me a good outline of how they divided tasks and what they really enjoyed doing together. But keep in mind that you really should divide the list based on things either of you might care about.  My friend’s fiance is a graphic designer (or something like that) and cares about artsy/creative things.  He wanted to do more with that side of the planning; others might prefer to work on music or on food. 

Here is my friend’s sample task list divide:

For him

As I mentioned, he’s creative! So he took care of invitations, the wedding website, and the slideshow (that they showed during the wedding).

For her

Flowers, dresses, and anything that required handwriting.

Keeping track of RSVPs — because they were sent to her. 

Both

Getting names & addresses for the guest list.

Picking out a song list (which, of course, can be done together — but might be easier if each person goes through their song list and picks out the ones they definitely want)

Together

The big things should be done together and it can be fun! So…  Vendors and locations, cake tasting (!), picking items for registry, seating chart, and photo album.

Perhaps take a dance class for your first dance!

What did you do? How did you divide your tasks?

~ Natasha

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