Andrea & Aaron’s Engagement Story!

Want to share YOUR engagement story? Email me! Natasha@theweddinglens.com! Here’s Andrea & Aaron’s story — which happened on July 4, 2008 in Hayward, WI on Lake Lac Courte Oreilles… and after 7 years of dating!

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“The overall weekend included a 1 hour and 50 minute trip up Interstate 35 and East into Grantsburg and across the MN border into WI thru Spooner and ending at Stone Hill Resort in Hayward, WI. Aaron, Tiki [their dog] and I left on Thursday evening and stayed until Saturday early evening….

Our Day~ Friday afternoon we spent the morning hanging out on the beach soaking up the sun! It must have been about 1pm or so and we all packed up and headed out for an afternoon cruising around the lake on the pontoon…. We ended up spending the entire afternoon out on the lake and I had started to turn a nice bright shade of red (a common nickname that I find Aaron calling me during the summer is “La Langosta” it means lobster). Anyway, I think we docked the pontoon back at the house somewhere between 4:30 & 5:30pm… and then….

Aaron suggested (wait no…) Aaron insisted that we go for a boat ride in the “Booger”.
 
Some of you might be asking yourself (or me) what is the “Booger”??
 
It’s this little dirty old green fishing boat. Not something that ANDREA wants to take out on a deep lake for a little joy ride- NOT AT ALL. You may also know that I am VERY scared… we’re talking VERY phobic of water… especially deep, dark, lake water!!!
I am not a good swimmer (well let’s just call me a NONswimmer) SO… I was very reluctant in getting in and taking a little boat ride with Aaron in the Booger- but like I said he insisted upon it and he even grabbed Tiki to take along for the ride. I figured that I better go for 2 reasons:
1. Tiki was going, so I better go- she might jump out (then what!?) she can swim- I can’t- end of story!
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2. I didn’t want to hear about me not going and being “chicken and not trusting Aaron” for the rest of the weekend… so there I was left with no choice- I VERY carefully stepped into the boat, while holding my breath- I grabbed Tiki to put her in my lap and to hang onto her for dear life
 
How It Happened~ So as we took off from the dock (going WAY TOO fast) I didn’t move a muscle… and wouldn’t let Tiki do so either. Of course I kept on telling Aaron to “slow down” and “NO sharp turns” (I was in the front of the boat that was like 50 feet up in the air!) that’s what it felt like anyway… (I don’t think you understand how afraid of the water I am) anyway- Aaron was laughing at me the whole way out. The conversation went like so:
Aaron asks: “How far out do you want to go?”
 
I say: “I don’t care, we can go back right now!”
– at this point Aaron stops the boat & cuts the motor off.
and as the water settles around us –
Aaron says: “Why don’t you check Tiki’s collar first.”
 
Me (confused & wondering) I check her collar and what do I SEE!?! a beautiful ring glistening in the early evening sun!
 
– Tears are forming at this point –
I say (tearfully): “Aaron……”
– With Aaron leaning forward, elbows on his knees hands together –
-Aaron asks me to Marry him!-
(I of course said) “Aaron… ABSOLUTELY!!!””
 
And now, of course, they are to be married in February in Cabo San Lucas! Congratulations!
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How to Write a Maid of Honor Speech

One of the most challenging things I’ve ever had to do is write a Maid of Honor speech.  I was flattered to be chosen as one of the MOHs and I was excited that I would be able to tell all the guests what a great friend the bride is, how much I adore her, and how fabulous the bride and groom are as a couple.  But once I opened up the blank Word document to start writing, I couldn’t think of anything.  I came up with a lot of stories, but I wanted to be cautious about what I said — after all, there was going to be family there!

I reflected on some of the speeches I had heard at other weddings and tried to draw from them.  In the end, I came up with some great stories and the speech went well!  Both the groom and I cried during the speech and I received many compliments afterwards.

Here are some tips for the MOH speech:

  • Make the speech family friendly! I kept picturing myself telling the speech to the bride’s parents. It ensured I stuck to appropriate stories and didn’t have too many inside jokes. 
  • Don’t forget to thank the families. Regardless of who’s paying for the wedding (and sometimes it is the bride and groom), the families should be mentioned. After all, they’re responsible for bringing both the bride and groom into the world and/or raising them!
  • Tell stories about the bride, the groom, or the bride and groom.  Sound obvious, right?  But once you start telling a story, it’s very easy to end up speaking more about yourself than the couple.  One of the worst speeches I ever heard was a Best Man who told stories about how he and the groom used to compete in high school sports and how he (the Best Man) was a much better athlete than the groom.  Remember: it is THEIR day, not yours! 
  • Make it personal.  I know I just said to make sure the stories are about the bride and groom, but you should be sure it has to do with you! After all, you were selected because you are a good friend and vice versa.  Share stories of times when you were with them.  That’s much more meaningful than a list of reasons why marriage is sacred.
  • Keep it relatively short! It doesn’t need to be a minute, but it shouldn’t drone on either. A few quick stories, maybe a how you met the bride or groom, and a toast should suffice!
  • Try not to read.  Obviously you’re nervous and you’re afraid you’re going to forget something, but do your best not to read.  Some people like to take a few notes up to the microphone, while others feel more comfortable with the full speech written out.  I did not bring anything with me because I didn’t want it to sound too rehearsed.  I was talking about my friend, not doing a closing argument!  In retrospect, sure, I forgot some things — but no one knows but me!  
  • Try not to be nervous! The Wedding Maid of Honor Speech Blog suggests introducing yourself, talking about how you met, and introducing humor to make the speech more relaxed.  

If you happen to start crying in the middle of the speech, like I did,  or if you forget what you were going to say, then just take a minute, breathe, and move on.  It felt like ages when I paused to wipe the tears, but when I saw the video afterwards, I realized it wasn’t nearly as long as I thought it was.  Good luck!

~Natasha