Walking Down the Aisle

photo from private The Wedding Lens album (used with permission)

photo from private The Wedding Lens album (used with permission)

Two of my amazing, independent-thinking friends got married last year and decided that they were going to banish the traditions of a wedding ceremony. It was amazing! The bride wore a green dress that she loved, there was no wedding party, and … (ready?) …

… the bride and groom walked down the aisle together. That was maybe my favorite part. They had been together for about 10 years and they felt like they were getting married together, growing together, and sharing a life together. It was so sweet.  But but but…. Yes, I know. The bride asked her father to officiate the ceremony so that he wouldn’t feel left out. And see? Everyone wins… (but who’s counting?)

I went to another wedding recently where the mothers walked the brides down the aisle, while the fathers officiated. It was really amazing to see all the parents involved in their daughters’ big day!

Then, I read another story about a woman who was basically raised by a man who is not her biological father and who she would prefer to walk down the aisle. In that case, Offbeat Bride suggested that she break the news to her father by highlighting the positives of the Other Dad, rather than the negatives of Biological Dad.

Another friend of mine didn’t grow up with her father and wasn’t particularly close with her step father, so she walked herself down the aisle! Stunning to see her walking down the church aisle by herself. She looked incredible!

And then another friend had both her parents walk her down the aisle!

I also just read about a new tradition where the bride and groom meet halfway on the aisle and then come to the altar together.

And then, all this said, some people just like tradition. The bride always dreamed of her father walking her down the aisle. It’s sweet, right?

So, to recap who can walk down the aisle:

  1. bride by herself
  2. bride and groom together
  3. bride with mama
  4. bride with papa
  5. bride with mama & papa
  6. bride with another prominent figure in her life

So – what will you do?

~ Natasha

How to Write Wedding Vows

A lot of couples want to personalize their wedding vows, but it’s hard to come up with things to write or what to say. So here’s some help.  Some couples want to write the vows for the officiant together and then they want to have vows that they say separately.

photo from The Wedding Lens
photo from The Wedding Lens

Find some time to sit down and work on your vows when it is quiet and there aren’t other things going on. One site suggests that you give a time limit and then write a letter that includes why you love your partner, a few of your favorite times together, and a few quotes. Take your time and be specific; dont make it short and sweet!

You should also come up with a list of words that you want to incorporate into your vows — either the ones said by the officiant or that you say. Examples? Love, Friendship… Etc.

If you’re having trouble, answer some simple questions about your relationship. Examples? What is the greatest thing you love about your partner? How/when did you know that your partner was “the one”?

Then exchange the letters, answers, and words. Read them, cry, hug, and then figure out what you might be able to incorporate into vows. Make sure you’re both on the same page about what you want and what you’re looking for!

Here is a sample wedding vow, from BrilliantWeddingPages:

“From this moment, I, Name, take you, Name, as my best friend for life. I pledge to honor, encourage, and support you through our walk together. When our way becomes difficult, I promise to stand by you and uplift you, so that through our union we can accomplish more than we could alone. I promise to work at our love and always make you a priority in my life. With every beat of my heart, I will love you. This is my solemn vow.”

If you’re looking for quotes or guidance for a religious ceremony, ForeverWed has a great guide to check out.

NOTE: If you do write your own wedding vows, some states require you to say (or not say) certain things. Make sure you check your county and state requirements before your wedding day!

Do you have other suggestions on writing wedding vows? Let us know!

~ Natasha

Who Will Perform Your Wedding Ceremony?

Some people have spiritual or religious guides who perform the wedding ceremony. Others have a non-denominational minister. Others have friends or family. Who will perform YOUR wedding ceremony? (And let us know how or why you picked this person in our comments section below!)

Don’t forget to check out our free wedding albums after you vote!!